Tuesday, 22 December 2015
FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION IN ISLAM
FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION IN ISLAM
Female Genital Mutilation(FGM) is part of Islam. It means total or partial closure of vaginal opening. It is mandatory for women to be circumcised in Islam as have been advise by Prophet Muhammad. The reasons for FGM in Islam are manifold like keeping the girls from committing fornication, keeping the vagina firm and saving the honour of the family, as in Islam honour of the family is associated with the women of the family. If any of the women of the family is found to be involved in any kind of illegitimate sexual relationship, It is deemed to be honourable to kill that woman. That is why you find a lot of honour killings in the Muslim countries. Any how lets read a few teachings from the Sunnah(life) of the Prophet Muhammad.
Sunnah Of Prophet
Aishah narrated that :
the Prophet said: "When the circumcised meets the circumcised then Ghusl is required." (Jamia Tirmadi 109 , Book Reference : Book 1, Hadith 109, English Reference: Vol.1, Book 1, Hadith 109).
It was narrated that 'Aishah the wife of the Prophet said:
"When the two circumcised parts meet, then bath is obligatory. The Messenger of Allah and I did that, and we bathed."( Sunan Ibn Maja Vol.1, Book 1, Hadith 608, Arabic Reference : Book1 Hadith 651).
Above two Ahadith are telling that during intercourse when two circumcised parts meet then after intercourse bath is necessary.
Umm 'Alqama related that when the daughters of 'A'isha's brother were circumcised, 'A'isha was asked, "Shall we call someone to amuse them?" "Yes," she replied. 'Adi was sent for and he came to them. 'A'isha passed by the room and saw him singing and shaking his head in rapture - and he had a large head of hair. 'Uff!' she exclaimed, 'A shaytan! Get him out! Get him out!'" (Adaab ul Mufrad book 53 , Hadith 1247 , Arabic Reference : Book 1 Hadith 1247)
Typology of FGM according to WHO
No Health Benefits, Only Harm
Immediate consequences of FGM include severe pain and bleeding, shock, difficulty in passing urine, infections, injury to nearby genital tissue and sometimes death. The procedure can result in death through severe bleeding leading to haemorrhagic shock, neurogenic shock as a result of pain and trauma, and overwhelming infection and septicaemia, according to Manfred Nowak, UN Special Rapporteur on Torture and other Cruel, Inhuman or Degrading Treatment or Punishment.
Can a woman Orgasm after FGM By Dr. Charles Bolman
As a gynecologist, I have had some unusual experiences. One was a Muslim patient who wanted to have a re-virgin operation. She explained that she was not a virgin, but was getting married to another Muslim man. And if he found out she wasn't a virgin, she would be killed.
So I merely reconstructed the hymen, and she was happily married.
Not all women have orgasms, even though they are capable. Most times this is an emotional thing, or even ignorance of the sexual act. I know of one patient who came in for an infertility evaluation. This was easily corrected when on pelvic exam it was found that the hymen was intact, but the urethra was dilated to the size of a penis. (Intercourse was not occurring in the vagina, but the urethra).
To the question asked, while there are a tremendous amount of nerve endings in the clitoris, sex is mainly a mental thing, especially for women. I have had patients say they can have orgasms from nipple stimulation.
How individuals experience orgasm varies. For many women, orgasm occurs with clitoral stimulation. There are more nerve endings in the clitoris than in the entire penis and the clitoris's sole function is for pleasure. Removal of the clitoris would eliminate the chance of having this particular type of orgasm. Some women experience orgasms that may be a result of stimulation of the G-Spot, located on the front vaginal wall.Actually the distal third of the vagina is sensitive, while the upper part is not.
There are people who report being able to orgasm from general vaginal stimulation (not G-Spot-specific), labial stimulation, nipple stimulation, and from anal intercourse.
A great deal of orgasm is related to our imaginations and our thoughts, as well. So, depending on the woman, the type of cutting procedure, how the genitals healed, and myriad psychological and emotional factors, orgasm and other forms sexual pleasure could be experienced by a woman who has experienced genital cutting. However, it's impossible to determine the likelihood of experiencing pleasure or orgasm for any one person because so many factors play a role.
In addition to lack of sensation or physical pain due to cutting, an person may experience distress or anxiety about having sex because of trauma or fear of pain.
The bottom line: While orgasm is indeed pleasurable, and desirable, sex is actually more than a physical act, especially for women. As Robin William's said, "Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place." Some women just like to be held and to give men pleasure. Sex is different for each couple. But there is certainly no reason you cannot have a good sex life even if the woman can't have an orgasm.
And if she can't, and this bothers you, you might want to consider the possibility this is your problem, and not hers.
I would think it would be a good idea to undergo couples counseling and discuss this with a professional.